The ego is in many cases not our best adviser – driven by fear and the need for survival, it will either try to keep you in your comfort zone, push you to get stuff done even if it’s not necessarily nourishing your soul, and in general urging you to take ego-affirming action.
It’s al about me me me – am I safe? Am I valued? Am I seen? Am I successful? And so on.
It has limited view and is bound by cultural beliefs, norms, values etcetera.
This only gets you so far, and you know it. The ego is practical, from a survival point of view. For a deeply fulfilling and more spiritual life, we need to turn to the soul, or the voice of our inner wisdom, or any other name you like to give that source of wisdom.
You’ve heard me say that the voice of the ego is loud, and tends to drown out the more subtle whisperings of the soul.
Another difficulty is, that the soul hardly speaks in complete sentences. Language is not necessarily how your inner wisdom conveys its messages. It can be in images, through insights, ideas, feelings, sensations in the body or in dreams.
So in order to open up to those messages, we need to become quiet and turn inward. We literally need to close off from all the input from the outside world, to take a moment to let our mind settle, get quiet, and open ourselves to our inner landscape.
But this is not the only reason why we find it so hard to hear the voice of inner wisdom and follow its guidance.
Perhaps the most important reason is, that we’re trying to get the soul to answer in ego language. We’re listening to the soul from our ego paradigm.
What I notice so often with my clients, is that the questions they want to ask their soul, are very practical. The bottom-line drive behind the question is often survival. So in the question, they are seeking a solution. A practical solution. Which, from an ego point of view, is normal and legitimate.
But this is the whole point: the soul is not the ego.
Not only does it speak a different language, it has a whole different perspective. It does not ‘think’ in terms of time, space, life, death, survival etc. It is not concerned with the ego’s interests.
So there is not much point asking your soul: ‘Should I marry this man or not’ (although your intuition can give a very direct hit on such a question!), ‘Should I have my wedding in May or in August?’, ‘Why is he being such a jackass?’ or ‘How am I going to earn more money?’
Sure, you can ask those questions. But the answers you’ll get won’t be ‘May’ or ‘Go ask your manager for a raise’.
Soul wisdom is much more likely to show you the deeper meaning of things, to show you another layer of what you are struggling with, to remind you of underlying needs. It will always be a gentle, loving message, never harsh, judging or condemning. But it may not be as straightforward as the ego wants it, and not as concerned with clear-cut solutions and short-term actions.
And this is when it gets hard understanding the soul. If you are getting at it from an ego perspective, expecting ego-solutions.
The dream-like, symbolic, spheric, fragmented messages from your soul can be puzzling sometimes. Sometimes it helps to do some automatic writing about it, to see what else comes up. Sometimes just sitting with it, or letting it be for a while, helps you get more clarity.
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Learning to tune inwards truly transformed my life. The ego is loud and often wrong.
Thanks for sharing this Karin. Often people can’t tell the soul voice from their ego, and that’s understandable. What do you advise for those who are just about to start listening to their sould for the first time?
That is so great Jovanhanna. The ego is wrong depending on what perspective you take, but it is certainly limited.
You are welcome Sarah. It is definitely understandable; we are not taught how to listen to our soul, and it is a language we are not familiar with. The first thing I advise people, is to start becoming aware of their mind chatter. Meditation or mindfulness based exercises are great for that. Once you are more aware of the workings of the mind, and familiarize yourself with stepping into the observer position (rather than being completely caught up in it), it becomes easier to become aware of more subtle signs of the body, of feelings, spheres, images etc. It’s a first step; tuning into the soul, understanding it AND following its guidance, takes practice, trust, and sometimes a bit of outside help. I’d say have fun trying out different ways of tapping in and finding out what works for you – art, visualizations, walks in nature, oracle cards, journaling/automatic writing &c. In my work with clients, I often use focussing-based exercises – the body is a great portal.